You've heard the expression "you have to kill your darlings," right? I think there's a lot of confusion about which darlings and how much killing should be involved. Originally, the saying was meant to help remove "precious" scenes. Anything that doesn't contribute, is "so beautiful" but wordy etc. should be ruthlessly removed by the hopeful … Continue reading Kill Your Darlings – Not Like That, You Murderer!
Today I woke up and checked the posts other people made on websites graphic designers created. Then I took my earthenware mug some other soul fired and a book another author wrote to the great outside, where I reveled in the plants someone else planted until it was time to go to the restaurant a … Continue reading FYPM: A Poem
So far, we've covered the micro and the macro aspects of community building. There's one more key element to communities, and that's defining who isn't in your community. This is probably the hardest part, and also the most important. People with good aims--creating strong communities, wanting a thriving business, whatever--tend not to also like being the … Continue reading Making a Community: Inclusion Is Exclusion
Last week I talked about how keeping your focus narrow and your interactions intimate help create a strong, robust community. Today, I'll talk about how to use this for big plans. Have Goals While the scope and attention should be laser focused on the fandom or experience that binds you all together, it's still important … Continue reading Making a Community: Plan Big
I know nothing about starting a community, okay? An influencer I am not. But I do spend an inordinate amount of time reflecting on what makes a community and how we help them flourish. Over the next three weeks, I'll be talking about some reflections I have on what I think is important when cultivating … Continue reading Making A Community: Thinking Small
As Pride Month closes, I want to take one more minute to say that we see and love all of you. Something I've been chewing on lately is the difference between saying "all are welcome" and "I have made a place for you, specifically." I see the first one a lot. On social media you'll … Continue reading Ally Is A Verb
People don't like "nice" things. There are a jillion books, movies, songs and even a couple religions about this concept, and it seems like it's a pretty human constant that we're only happy when we know we may not stay happy. We are the reasons we can't have nice things. What can I say! We're … Continue reading Suspensive
I hope everyone had a good Father's Day. It can be a tough day for a lot of people, so I hope it was spent with people you love and who support your emotional health. One of the things my dad taught me how to do is to critique creative things in a manner that … Continue reading Make Editing Fetch
It's the day of the PRIDE Parade in Philadelphia, so what better time for me to wish all celebrants an amazing Pride Day and month! It's also the 50 year anniversary of the Stonewall Riots, the "genesis" of Pride celebrations via the commencement of the movement for LGBTQ rights, when a police raid against an … Continue reading Happy Pride!
It's gorgeous outside for the first time in weeks, so this will not be a long post. As far as book three goes, it's inching along. I want to make sure I'm completely satisfied with the story I'm telling, and apparently I've gotten more persnickety, because it's taking forever. Yes. I know. I've had words … Continue reading Screw Beach Ready, I Want Sleep Ready