There was a brief period when I was a kid where everyone wanted to be multitaskers. "I can multi-task," the business people would say, palm pilot in one hand and coffee mug in another. Teachers started breaking up segments of instruction into smaller chunks, and sensory stimulus were included in our lessons. It was glorious. … Continue reading So, Are You Single (Tasking)?
Today I have: Cleaned the kitchen Read a bunch Put a corned beef in a crock pot Taken three naps I realize this may be taking "lazy Sunday" a bit far, but I've had a very active couple of days and, unfortunately, a few nights more active than I'd like, so today I'm doing my … Continue reading The Quiet (Wo)Man
"No one has a real conversation anymore." "No one knows how to cook anymore." "No one respects tradition anymore." "No one just lets me say offensive things anymore." If I've heard it once, I've heard it a thousand times--my generation is killing all that is good and sacred. Apparently we're the Apocalypse incarnate, and where … Continue reading Millenials Are Killing Manners
I'm writing! Things are being written! Hope to have the first draft done this month! So, I shall take a break from fiction and talk about reality in fiction again. I want to bring up trauma again, and most specifically how it's not any of our damn business how people handle it. This was making the … Continue reading The Sensitivity Police: How Not To Be A Jerk
I have so many things I want to write about, but I had my circadian rhythm inverted yesterday and I can't do the words out loud today. Here is a summary of my week: -I would pay so much money for unlimited skillet cornbread -Epic does not mean confusing AF -Brain weasels should be banned … Continue reading The Brain Won’t Do The Thing Today
The last two weeks I've talked about comforting people and setting boundaries. Rest assured, this is still a blog about writing and books. So, what do those things have to do with writing? This is about character studies, babe. I've talked before about how I hate when cruelty is short hand for identifying the bad … Continue reading Better Ways to Be Bad
I talked last week about how to support people, with some significant caveats. Today, I want to talk about people who are toxic, taxing, or too far above your ability to heal. Who the hell am I you ask? I'm nobody, really. I'm not a mental health professional or life coach. I'm just someone who … Continue reading Putting On My Oxygen Mask First
Book update: It is still made of words and growing wordier. It is doing this slowly because I am realizing it needs different words in other places, too, and I'm adding those as I realize they're not there. Boom. Done. Now let's talk about a real thing and stop worrying about who's a year over … Continue reading I’d Advise Not Giving Advice, If You Asked Me, Which You Have Not
When we were kids, my parents made us try a bite of every food someone served us. Being relatively picky eaters, they quickly realized that we'd need an appropriate way to say that we'd rather die than eat one more bite of this hell-sludge. They settled--fairly hastily, I think--on "it's not my favorite" as the … Continue reading Agreeing On How We Disagree
First off, thank you to everyone who helped vote for my book title! I appreciate that so much! And now, let me sing you the song of my people. Overwrought outlines and bins of like-food stuffs, Folded up undies and socks, that's the good stuff. Cute little dishes to hold both my rings, These are … Continue reading Neat-Oh!