I talked last week about how to support people, with some significant caveats. Today, I want to talk about people who are toxic, taxing, or too far above your ability to heal. Who the hell am I you ask? I'm nobody, really. I'm not a mental health professional or life coach. I'm just someone who … Continue reading Putting On My Oxygen Mask First
Book update: It is still made of words and growing wordier. It is doing this slowly because I am realizing it needs different words in other places, too, and I'm adding those as I realize they're not there. Boom. Done. Now let's talk about a real thing and stop worrying about who's a year over … Continue reading I’d Advise Not Giving Advice, If You Asked Me, Which You Have Not
When we were kids, my parents made us try a bite of every food someone served us. Being relatively picky eaters, they quickly realized that we'd need an appropriate way to say that we'd rather die than eat one more bite of this hell-sludge. They settled--fairly hastily, I think--on "it's not my favorite" as the … Continue reading Agreeing On How We Disagree
First off, thank you to everyone who helped vote for my book title! I appreciate that so much! And now, let me sing you the song of my people. Overwrought outlines and bins of like-food stuffs, Folded up undies and socks, that's the good stuff. Cute little dishes to hold both my rings, These are … Continue reading Neat-Oh!
A few weeks ago, I realized I may have a problem. I'd already selected a title and started circulating it. And then, like every time anyone shares a name they're thinking about with people at large, it became a problem. "Oh you're naming your kid Alex? An Alex once puked on me. When I hear … Continue reading Spectitular Nameology
This time last year, I was feeling ready. I was prepared for what the year would bring. I was going to fight them on the beaches, on the Twitters and on the tumblrs. Or so I thought. And then 2018 came at us like Killer Rabbit of Caerbannog and I ran away. So this year I'm moving through like … Continue reading 2019 Needs More Cake (And Fewer Poison Arrows)
Another year over. I had three goals this year. I was going to read more purposefully, finish my third book, and eat honey cake as often as possible. I'm at two of three, but I'm hoping there's a curve. Especially since I've really eaten so much honey cake. Sort of ironically, I didn't put health goals … Continue reading A Year In Reviews
Whether for you this time is about the Solstice, Yule, Christmas, or a much-appreciated day off from the busy times at work, I hope this week brings you peace. As we prepare to shed 2018 and greet 2019, I hope you do whatever it is that re-energizes you, that patches up your heart and prepares … Continue reading May Your Days Be Merry and Bright
All right, procrastinators, this is your time to shine. Yes, work's only gotten busier, people are scheduling impromptu gift exchanges early because the kids are sick or everyone's decided to go to some other celebration for the last week of the year. You can just manage to say you couldn't make it to Hanukkah but still … Continue reading Merry Procrastinator Week!
While I am not a sociologist, psychologist or anthropologist, I think I've just about nailed down a working theory on how one can determine who will go into academia. I am a well read person with a privileged profession, so naturally I fancy myself somewhat erudite. I think to myself as I pass students heading … Continue reading The Prof is in the Putting (On of Tweed)